How to Support the Men in Your Life with Encouraging Words

Wondering why all of your relationships with Men have been terrible thus far? Just maybe you had a terrible father, grandfather, and uncle. Or maybe you father wasn't in your life at all. Maybe all of the women in your family have always bad mouthed the men in your family or just men in general.

Ask yourself? What are your negative or limiting beliefs about men?

There are many stereotypes floating out there about men and not only women but men as well have accepted those stereotypes. A few of the Stereotypes that have crippled society are:

• All Men Cheat
• All Men are Liars
• Men Can't Keep a Job
• Men aren't stable or Reliable

Are these beliefs that you have accepted as a woman? For the men who may be reading this: Are these limiting beliefs that you have accepted for yourself? Have we used these stereotypes to excuse dishonest behavior?

Is it more acceptable when men cheat or lie just because society says that they are supposed to?

The Truth is this: Men are people just like all of us. Just like a man can lie and be unfaithful so can women. Women do just as much damage as men do because we are all people and wrong is wrong.

So now that we have taken care of the stereotypes, we can move on. Men in general are not cheaters. Men in general are not liars. There are many men out there who can keep a job, are very successful in their careers, make for very caring and loving fathers, and can be faithful and honest in their relationships.

Now is the time for the Men & Women of society to release the limiting beliefs that have held us back for so long. For the woman who feels she only meets men who reflect this negative behavior. I can relate. There was a time in my life when it seemed that all the men I was meeting weren't meeting "my standards". But when I took some time to look deep within I realized that part of my experience was due to my negative and limiting beliefs about men.

You see, when you have negative beliefs about something or someone how you react when meeting someone new is in some way premeditated. You can actually be in the presence of a really decent individual but because you already don't believe that meeting someone positive could be possible, you shut that person out of your life with your negative thought process.

Try this: Take inventory of your thoughts from this day on. Any negative beliefs about men try changing them to a positive one. Tell yourself that there are many honorable men out there and that you will meet them. Don't give up and it will happen.

As for the men or boys who are currently in your life how do you view them? How are you treating them? Men are very different than women as we all know. Different doesn't have to mean stupid or ignorant. There is beauty in the difference if we would all learn to appreciate the little things.

No, your guy may not remember things the way you do. You may even have to remind them to do what you asked of them a few times. But its all about the way that you do it. I am not just talking about our significant others but I am also speaking in reference to our fathers, brothers, and sons. Some of the damage that has occurred with our Men and their self esteem issues have started with us as women. We have to lift our men up and praise them. We have to encourage them.

Here are just a few tips when aiming to Speak Encouraging Words to the Man(men) in your Life:

• When you don't like something that they did, don't be so quick to put them down. Just learn how to kindly let them know how that made you feel and communicate your needs
• Pay attention to the little things they do and just say, "thank you"
• Don't forget to say "I love you", and "I appreciate You"
• Remember to Praise them when something they did made you feel good or tickled your fancy
• Find positive words to speak over them and over their lives. If you can't find positive names to call them don't use any at all
• Working on your overall view of men will help the way that they respond around you. If you are expecting them to be someone honorable, that you can rely on and look up to, they will respond to you much more positively

Let's try an exercise. It's called the 5 things grateful list. I will start with my own grateful list for the men in my life and then you can make your own list if you would like. It changes your entire attitude and makes it a more positive one and helps you to realize just how blessed you are to have those around you that you do. Start with listing all the positive men in your life: (here are mine)

*My Dad

*My Son

*My Brother

*My Significant Other

Then list 5 things you are thankful to them for as if they were standing right in front of you listening. So I will start with my family:

Dad, I am so grateful for you being in my life. Thank you for: watching my son to and from the bus each day, thanks for being there for me my whole entire life, thanks for continuously supporting me even now as an adult, thanks for giving me kisses and hugs because they still do mean a lot even though I may not act like it, & thank you for never leaving.

Brother, I am so glad you are my brother. Thanks for those talks when my past relationship failed, thanks for some of the secrets you kept just between us, thanks for being a great uncle to My Son, thanks for defending me and protecting me, and thank you for being a great man of integrity.

To My Son: I am so grateful that I was given a special gift: You as my son. I am grateful for having the best son in the entire world, thanks for doing something unique to make me feel special each day, for telling me how beautiful my hair is even when you know it's a mess, thanks for that smile that lights up the world, thanks for telling me you love me several times a day, and for always being willing to help me out around the house.

For My Significant Other: Thanks for being the sunshine that has made my life so much brighter, thanks for making me laugh and smile, thanks for telling me how beautiful I am, thanks for understanding me, thanks for accepting me just as I am, Thank you for being the man that you are in my life, the greatest ever!

Now it's Your Turn...

"The More You Encourage the Men in Your Life in a Positive Way the More Positive They Can Be in the World"